4 things that can strengthen your relationship!

Are you in a relationship that you feel has potential? Or do you want to be in a long-lasting relationship? Read below to find out what you should be doing to make your relationship strong!

4 things that can strengthen your relationship:

1. Trust and Belief.

When things are not pleasant between you both, remember why this person became important and special to you. Understand your partner. Make sure that they know that you want to listen to them and clear whatever misunderstanding there is instead of firing bullets. Believe in his/her potential to do good even if the circumstances are not in their favor. Remember what Dr. Sean Maguire said?

“Some people can’t believe in themselves until someone else believes in them first.”

– Sean Maguire, from Good Will Hunting

2. Forgiveness

Forgiving does not mean that you’re giving someone the permission to hurt you. When we are angry, disappointed or betrayed we feel that by forgiving the person we are letting him/ her get away with it. It can be enticing to hang on to those negative emotions instead of thinking about how you may have contributed to the problem. There is always two side to a story. By forgiving you let go of the hurt in the past to give way for new possibilities in the future.

3. No secrets or lies. Share as much as you can!

Ask your partner to share with you. If they need time, assure them that you’ll wait for as long as they want. You have the right to say whatever you want. But a relationship based on false information just to please your partner is bound to fall apart eventually. A relationship grows strong when both the partners are honest with each other. Sometimes, we are tempted to protect our partners by keeping secrets for them. Although the intention might be positive, things might not be in your favor as the time passes and you might face unexpected consequences. So be as open as you can be with your partner.

4. Learn the love language!

Everyone expresses themselves in different ways. Some might express their love with touch or intimacy while other might express in words or actions. Learn the what makes your partner happy and loved.

If they prefer words more than intimacy then make sure that you throw around a few compliments now and again. But also assure that you mean them.

If your partner prefers action then you could do things that you normally haven’t done for him/her yet. Help them without being asked. It would mean a lot to them.

Your partner might like receiving gifts. It does not always have to be something of monetary value. It could be something physical or emotional, anything that shows how much you value them.

Spend quality time with your partner. You may not be able to give them a lot of time but you can ensure that whatever time you do spend are well planned and that he/she has your undivided attention during that period.

If your partner prefers intimacy over other ways of showing love then create an embrace that’s uniquely yours. Like you may kiss her forehead or cheek when she meets you or nuzzle noses or secret handshakes or squeezing their hands. It could be anything. Make sure that you touch them while you’re talking. Listen not only with your ears but your hands, eyes, and body. Hold hands. Touch or kiss their cheek when he/she is done talking. Ensure that you are respecting and listening to him/ her, but also show you are as physically connected to them as you are emotionally. Hugs don’t always seem intimate but when done with purpose they are a very good way of showing your affections both in public and private.